After much debate and soul searching we come to peace in our decision to be done having children. We never planned to have more than two, but after W’s birth we reconsidered, I was more wanting it than A. It’s been a torturous process for me wrapped up in how long we’d store our leftover vials.
In my heart, I want a third child. But I know that two is all we can handle. The bottom line is that we can not afford a third – financially nor emotionally. Two takes just about all we’ve got and some days more. A and I have so little time as a couple. We’re excited to move forward and gain more of ourselves and our couplehood back.
This blog is coming to an end too. I have spent years here. It was the most valuable outlet during the dark days of trying to create our family. I’ve made friendships here, and have so many wonderful people in my life because of this blog. But I don’t maintain it, and it has no focus.
I am embarking on new adventures, which I will no doubt write about. I am excited to focus more on my crafty side. To create things. And I am also working on a long term project having to do with food allergies. My path is moving and this is not the place where I want to write. If I do create new spaces, I may link them here.
If you’re so inclined to remain in touch over FaceBook, and we’re not already friends, leave a comment and I will search you by your email.
So long. It’s been really fucking amazing to share this journey. Not a day goes by where I am not completely aware of how blessed I am to have two beautiful healthy children. I am not sure I would have made it here with out all the internet support.
xoxoxo



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January 23, 2011 at 4:19 pm
Maeby
Best of luck & it’s been great following you. And, of course, I’ll see you around on Facebook!
January 23, 2011 at 4:41 pm
chris
how odd that after not coming here for ages, i come here today and find this! wow! we have entertained thoughts of a 3rd, too, but it’s not to be, for many of the same reasons as you guys. whattya gonna do with the extra vials? we will, of course, always be in touch with you guys! xoxo
January 23, 2011 at 6:06 pm
Kim
Thank you for this blog as well. I read you over the years and we were both fortunately enough to get the family we so hoped for, but it was so nice to go through this journey with other women who understood. I wish you and your family all the best!
January 23, 2011 at 6:18 pm
mhazelton
Married Lesbian Mom here. Love to be FB friends. Long time lurker…I dont comment a lot because I read through Google Reader.
melissaahazelton@yahoo.com
January 23, 2011 at 9:45 pm
Jessie
I would love three as well but I’m not sure that we could handle more than two either. You have a beautiful family of four<3
January 24, 2011 at 1:37 pm
Darcie
I commend you for even desiring three! We have a 5 month old and I often find myself saying “What the hell were we thinking?!”. I love her with all my heart but it’s more work than I ever imagined! (and I miss “us”!).
I too lurked around your page for a while, it was inspiring when we were trying to get pregnant, encouraging to see how happy your guys are!
Good Luck!
January 25, 2011 at 2:17 am
Lisa
Best wishes to you and your family
January 26, 2011 at 11:34 pm
Ali
Yours was the very first blog I ever read while embarking on our long TTC journey. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Take good care and best wishes to you all!
February 1, 2011 at 4:27 pm
ohchicken
thank you for being such a big part of the creation of my family. (remember the preseed in 07? whee!)
i’ll keep following you on the old fb. and if you blog again, do tell me. xox
February 7, 2011 at 5:00 pm
Maureen
Wow. I’ve loved this blog since I started ttc in 2007. I just had my kid in early january and I’ve been too busy to check up here until today. so happy you are where you are. so sad you will not be sharing with us anymore.
good luck
January 12, 2012 at 1:09 am
Allie
I always find the best blogs when they’ve finished. I’m not a mom yet, but I love hearing about same sex parents and their kids. The kids always seem happy, their moms or dads are very loving to each other and the whole family life is just happy. It’s great to see.