I supposed it didn’t just happen. There were signs leading up to the end. A gradual break.
A few weeks ago A and I were talking to Mr. E about how when the baby comes it will have milk from Mommy. In a very sad voice he said “I do too.” Fast forward to this week and my boy seems to have self weaned. He’s a little more than 21 and half months and he has gone more than 48 hours without asking for milk.
Long ago I stopped offering, but continued to give as asked. Looking back, it was when I night weaned him that my supply tanked and since he was nursing more over night than during the day, it makes sense that he’d start to lose interest all together.
I am completely at peace with what seems to be Mr. E’s end of nursing. My plan was always to let him self wean, even though there were times I doubted he’d ever do it. Even still I am in a bit of shock that he seems to be doing it, and think any day now he’ll ask for milk.
As he weaned he started asking to snuggle a lot. Through out the day he comes to me, lovey in hand, and says “snuggle.” He’s been very directive with me as to just how we will snuggle. He places lovey on my left shoulder and he lays his head on it. He often asks to snuggle “in the green chair” which is where he used to ask to nurse. Witnessing this transition, and seeing him decide he is done, and yet carrying over some comfort has been remarkable for me.
I have been ready to end our nursing relationship for some time, but believed in letting him lead the way. I was committed to nursing through pregnancy if that’s what he wanted. My only regret is that I will not be nursing him through the flu season but if I am being honest, I am SO thankful to have my breasts back for a while before this next baby lays claim. However, experiencing his transformation was more than worth my previous desire to be done.





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October 30, 2009 at 12:01 pm
Sarah
Really beautiful darling. Mr. E is such a dream. Hope you’re feeling well and keeping away from the flu season yourself. xo
October 31, 2009 at 3:37 pm
ohchicken
this makes me a little weepy, but also hopeful that jude will follow suit someday.
November 2, 2009 at 10:56 am
Erin
Congratulations to you on a job well, well done. Enjoy these months of keeping your shirt down before that new nursling arrives!
November 6, 2009 at 9:12 pm
Sara
Hi. I have been reading your blog for a long time (since before you conceived Mr E) though this is my first time commenting. I know that you are living on the Cape, which is where I am located as well. I now have a 3 month old baby girl and was wondering how you found playgroups, etc in the area. While I am not overly new to the Cape (I have lived here for 5 years), I used to commute to Boston every day for work, so I don’t really have a social network down here. I am now a stay at home mom (also cloth diapering!! which I love) and am trying to meet others in a similar situation. Any ideas?
Thanks, Sara
November 6, 2009 at 10:02 pm
e.
Sara,
I just sent you an email.