Three Phone Calls Later

Update on the shower dilemma…

I called my mom last night and expressed my concerns. She spent a good five minutes trying to convince me there was no shower…but she was finally convinced when I told her what I knew and then gave in when she could hear the stress in my voice. Yes there is a shower. It’s on Saturday night. A.’s family is staying with us and my parents are giving up their bed to accommodate all the guests. Hey, that’s their choice.

I am so glad to have the details. Now I will tell our host student that I am pregnant on our way down and also explain the concept of a baby shower and tell her a bit about the characters she will meet there! Also, I’m glad I know the time of the shower, since we have a dune tour booked in P-Town when we are supposed to be at the shower! We are excited that everyone is excited and wants to come and celebrate with us. I just needed the details so I could manage our schedule and still provide our student with a proper visit to the Cape!

The phone call last night only left me with the details so we could plan. I was still a bit stressed and feeling really bad that my mom was so disappointed about it not being a surprise. But I tried to let it go. I woke still feeling bad. She called me this morning and after that phone call I felt better. But apparently she felt worse when she realized just how stressed all this had made me. She called back again. I think we are both ok now and we’re all really looking forward to the shower!

So, I bet you’re wondering why on Earth she’s throwing our shower at 16 weeks!? Mostly it boils down to a miscommunication and partly she just wanted to do it, so I’ve been told. When I left their house after visiting for an extended period this summer, my dad said “so we won’t see you till Christmas, right?” Which is what he says every summer when I leave. So she thought we wouldn’t be back before then, and when she pictured planning this – as a surprise – she didn’t know how, between my on-call schedule and A.’s weekend class schedule, she’d pull it off. We thought she’d talk to us, maybe in the fall about dates and we’d suggest the first Sunday in November. She said to me, “well that was a mistake, thinking I’d actually talk to you about it!” I guess we just disagree about it needing to be a surprise.

We’re all okay, it’s early, it’s not what we’d though, but we are excited. And…I really and truly do hope my SIL can hold off and have her baby after the shower, so she can be there. (She’s due 8/13.) We have our differences, but I do think my pregnancy has helped to mend our relationship and I would like her to be there.