Last night I had a dream that I delivered a baby girl. This was the first dream since the morning had a +hpt after waking from a dream where I’d just gotten a +hpt. Now, this could be because we want a girl, or maybe it’s another psychic dream. It’s also pretty coincidental that just yesterday I told my cousin that I hadn’t had any pregnant dreams yet. When I spoke with A. today she said that one of our friends told her she recently had a dream that we had a girl…so who knows?!
We’ve gone back and fourth about finding out the sex at our ultra sound. I’ve gotten a lot of pressure to find out from my family, which kind of makes me not want to find out. I always said I wouldn’t find out and now that I can it’s so hard to wait. We’ve got it in our heads that we’re having a girl, so now the pull to find out is to prepare our selves if it’s a boy. Don’t get me wrong, all we REALLY want is a happy healthy baby. We have six weeks to decide and then the big question is, if we find out will we tell anyone? Can we keep the secret? I’ve seen the pink and blue explosions at baby showers and I really don’t want anything to do with that. But how can you avoid it when people know?
Decisions, decisions.
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July 10, 2007 at 6:22 pm
tbean
I have to say that while I’d probably rather find out…I absolutely *hate* the pink and blue explosions at the baby showers. I told S. that when we are pg we could find out and not tell anyone but she thinks that plan has a fairly remote chance of actually working! And really, even if you keep it a secret, the pink and blue will come to stalk you the second the kid is born, so there’s really no avoiding it. You would think that people giving gifts to les.bian families could think a little outside of the pink/blue box but that doesn’t seem to be the case!!!
July 10, 2007 at 6:40 pm
Elizabeth
How about revealing the sex at the shower so that people have already bought their gifts? Or does that mean having to keep it a secret for way too long? I’m almost positive that I’ll want to know in advance (when the time comes, of course), and I’m terrible at keeping my mouth shut about anything. You could always exchange the most gender-intense stuff. Or is that terribly rude? Clearly, I have no useful advice whatsoever. Good luck!
July 10, 2007 at 9:50 pm
SW
I just think it’s so exciting to be pondering boy or girl. I think I’m going to be too curious and have to find out. Know what you mean about all the icky pink and blue at showers. My sister’s baby was shy at the ultrasounds and they couldn’t get a good look at him until she was about 8 months along. We had her shower before we knew he was a boy and I was disappointed to find that it was rather challenging to find much variety in gender-neutral infant clothes.
Anyway, I hope if you do opt to find out, you’ll tell all your friends here in blogland!
July 11, 2007 at 9:37 am
Melody
I’m firmly in the need-to-know camp.
Would it be in totally bad taste to send out invitations to a “Gender-neutral baby shower”?
I’m planning to sit down with at least my immediate family and discuss our no-Disney/keeping the commercialism as light as possible policy.
July 11, 2007 at 10:39 am
Co
It’s up to you. I’m sorry you’re getting pressure from family, but you should decide if you guys want to be surprised or not. Are you having the u/s regardless? If so, it might be hard for you guys not to see yourselves. Ya never know.
And cool about the first pg dream!
July 11, 2007 at 4:45 pm
gretch
one way we tried to avoid the pink explosion was to try to register for as many non-clothing related items as possible… like developmental toys, bathtime items (tub, toys, washcloths in blues and greens, hooded towels of all shades), diaper bags, white onsies, books, activity gyms, etc., etc, etc…
you’ll still get some people that MUST absolutely buy the bluest or the pinkest thing around…but at least it will be minimized.
July 12, 2007 at 11:01 pm
Jude
You know what? Those pink clothes are really starting to grow on us.
July 13, 2007 at 9:38 am
holly
It’s such a tough decision. I was in the “I don’t want to find out” camp before we got pregnant. I didn’t want a huge influx of pink or blue items either. Then a friend of ours had a boy but since she didn’t find out EVERYTHING was green and yellow. Lois and I quickly decided that we wanted to know. We loved knowing and painting the nursey blue and picking out boy bedding we liked and baseball outfits, etc.
But that’s us. It’s totally a personal decision. When I think back, I am so glad we found out. But neither one of us at that point had any conviction that we wanted to be surprised, so it wasn’t a tough decision for us.
I also agree with Gretch. At baby showers, you get so many ridiculous clothes that you’re never going to get to put on the kid. Try to make it a “toys and gear” shower as much as possible. And try to suggest gift cards if people want to help you out with clothes. You will still get plenty of people who love shopping for baby clothes and get some white, green or yellow stuff.
July 13, 2007 at 9:39 am
holly
oh, I also wanted to add, a pregnancy dream is cool. And if you believe what some people are going to tell you, your dream and intuition about whether it’s a boy or girl is usually right on.
July 14, 2007 at 3:57 pm
Shelly
This is Shelly from fertility friend. We are thinking we will find out and ONLY tell my mother, who just has to know and has already been made to promise she will keep the secret. We’re going to tell everyone else that “we want it to be a surprise” so it sounds like we don’t know (but it’s not a lie – we do want it to be a surprise for everybody else.) I cannot deal with the pink and blue either, but we have the same situation where I really, really want a girl and want the time to get prepared if it’s a boy. Just what we’re going to do, in case it helps.